sometimes there's no answer to the question "why?"

do you ever ask the question "why?"... it could be used in a longer question, like "why me?", "why did this happen?", or just a really long "whyyyyyy?" when things just don't make sense and you have no other words. i was asking that a lot last night after a challenging family situation. then i tried to recall the things i've learned about asking that question and started feeling better. now i'm passing that on to you. i hope it's helpful.

first off, here's some more good advice from mom: "sometimes there's no answer to the question why."
...sometimes, stuff just happens. sometimes, stuff just doesn't make sense. sometimes, bad things happen to good people, good things happen to bad people, and the world keeps getting screwed up in a variety of ways that don't have an explanation for the question "why?"
an aside: moms always know what's up, even if you don't always like it (this is assuming you have a good mom... if you're mom's a wacko, maybe ask an aunt instead. in my case, my mom's a pretty great resource). heed their advice whenever possible. it saves loads of your time because you're learning from their experiences.

a few ways to find peace with that in a book-wormy kinda way:
- read "the power of now" and "a new earth" by eckhart tolle
- read "the 4 agreements" by don miguel ruiz
those are 3 books i absolutely LOVE and found really inspiring when going through anything that seemed to make no sense and was eating away at me (not literally, in case you were wondering) or when i needed to help put myself in perspective.

another piece of advice from yours truly: if you feel like things are overwhelming or too challenging to deal with, think about where you are in the universe.
- look up at the sky and think of the grandeur of our entire universe.
- then think about how truly little each and every one of us is. vital to the whole, yes. (and yes, i believe each and every one of us matters.) but perhaps just try and think about how you're problems probably aren't the biggest issue in the vastness of the universe. your problems are your own in your life, and you can't let them rule your life, just as the universe can't dwell on the vast issues it's constantly dealing with. the universe evolves and rolls with the punches, and you can too.
- once you put yourself in perspective you'll find it easier to move on. go for a walk, even if it's raining. or do yoga. or do something else that's physically active. endorphins are a good friend when you're feeling bummed.

now... cheer up, buttercup ;)